This is not always easy, and you will have to do your best during
two crucial periods in your child's life - adolescence and young adulthood. Your
children will need all the guidance and understanding you can provide.
Communication and understanding, during these sometimes trying times, may very
well set the tone for the life decisions your child will make.
Here are a few tips that should help with teen parenting bonding issues:
1. Learn What Your Teen Enjoys When your teen was a child, finding
things to do was a snap. But, as they grow into their teens, you will have to
work extra hard to learn about what your teens like. It may not be easy, but
being able to relate to your teen's likes and dislikes is integral to building
an open and meaningful relationship with your child.
2. Being Strict Is Not A Bad Thing Most teenagers bristle at rules and
restrictions. They feel that they are old enough to take care of themselves.
While this is partially true, teens still have a need for restrictions. With new
found freedoms and desires, they could very well hurt themselves if they do not
restrain themselves responsibly.
Make your teen understand that he or she will be given greater freedom, but with
greater freedom they must develop greater responsibility and accountability.
Freedom without responsibility is useless.
Make sure you help your teen learn to plan ahead. You do not have to plan it for
them; just help guide them to make good decisions on their own.
3. Communicate Daily Daily communication is important in keeping the
channels of concern open. You teen will be more inclined to confide in you if
you engage in daily conversation. Confiding in someone takes some practice and
some trust. This can only be built by meaningful relationships that are
facilitated by good communication.
Learning to understand the world your teen lives in will put you in a better
position to not only gain their trust, but to have a greater understanding of
their overall behavior.
Daily communication will show your teen that you care for him. This is a very
important teen parenting factor, since teens will feel more comfortable with
parents that are actively involved with them. In the absence of parental
involvement, teens may turn to unreliable peers when looking for guidance or
comfort. It is very important for a teen's parents to provide the guidance and
caring they require.