|
Visit Our Store!
Home
Contact Us
About Us
Other Great Parent Websites
Free Stuff
Questions & Answers
Link Exchange
Behavior Charts Ages 3-10
Behavior Charts Ages 11+
Single Behavior Charts Ages 3-10
(to target one
behavior)
Chore Charts
Ages 4-10
Chore Charts
Ages 11+
Potty
Training Charts
Pet Care Charts
Teeth Care
Charts
Reading Charts
Theme Charts
(practice instrument, morning routine, homework)
Holiday Charts
Example Filled In Charts
Feeling Charts
| Reward Coupons,
Stickers, and Other Printables |
Reward Certificates And Coupons
Potty Training Reward Coupons
Printable Invitations
Printable Stickers
Printable
Calendar Pages for Kids
Using Behavior Charts
Reward Ideas
Using Our
Potty Training Charts
Getting Kids To Do Chores
Nine Fun Ways To Potty Train Your Child
Potty Training - When Should
I Start?
Potty
Training Boys
Potty Training At Daycare and Preschool
Age Appropriate Chores For Kids
Stress Management Tips
Getting Kids To Love Reading
Homework Tips For Kids
Selecting
The Right Pet
75 Ways To Say Good Job
Effective Discipline For Two Year Olds
Teen Parenting Tips
Tips For
Parenting ADHD and Spirited Kids
Successful Stepparenting
| Tips To Tackle Tricky
Behaviors |
Tantrums
Sibling Rivalry
Cleaning Up
Brushing Teeth
Hitting
Lying
Back Talk
Thumbsucking
Biting
|
|
Five Strategies To Start Your
Stepparenting Experience On The Right Path

|
|
Stepparenting can be challenging and rewarding at the same time.
Children aren't always wiling to open up to new stepparents. And stepparents may
have difficulty connecting with their new stepchildren. The following strategies
can make your transition to stepparenting a
bit smoother! |
Most important, know that children may still be
recovering from the loss of their original family. If a child's new family
does not meet her expectations, she may become resentful. Stepparents need to be
patient and give children time to adjust. In some cases, lots of time is needed.
Take it slow. Don't be pushy, and give children plenty of room to get used
to their new family. Don't force your attention or affection. In time, you may
be able to help your stepchildren formulate a new idea of family based on their
current set of parents and siblings. But, remember that it may take some time
for them to let go of their old visions of family.
When disciplining children, let the biological parent take the lead. Make
yourself available as a support person. If you are forced to take an
authoritarian role with your stepkids, behave more like an uncle, babysitter, or
roommate. The kids may be more attentive if you avoid stepping in as the
"parent". Remember to stay calm and cool. At first, you can wait until the
biological parent is available to enforce strict consequences. You will want to
set up some specific rules and expectations that either parent can enforce. It
may be best to let the biological parent present these expectations to the kids.
Talk to the kids about maintaining the rules no matter which adult is in charge
whether it's a parent, stepparent, grandparent, babysitter, etc.
Avoid talking negatively about any of the child's biological relatives
(i.e. siblings, parents, grandparents). This will just alienate you from the
child and cause resentment.
Spend quality time with your stepchildren. Get to know your stepchildren
by spending one-on-one time with each of them. Be willing to sacrifice some of
your own time in order to have fun with your stepchildren. Make yourself
available but don't be pushy or forceful. Your stepchild may come to enjoy
having another adult around!
If you are blending two families, make sure that you set up the same
expectations for all kids. Kids from two families may not like each other
but should be expected to treat each other with respect. Try your hardest to be
fair and treat your biological kids and your stepkids equally.
Finally, if you are practicing patience, following the steps above, and
find continued difficulties with your stepchildren, you may want to seek the
help of a professional family counselor. The family as a whole may need to seek
the assistance of an objective, third party to help resolve conflicts and
develop coping strategies.
Remember, stepparenting can be very rewarding. Don't forget that if you
feel awkward or uncomfortable at times, your stepchild is probably feeling the
same way! By remaining calm, patient, and spending some quality time with your
stepchildren, you have a great chance of developing a healthy, positive
relationships!
by Joanne McNulty, Free Printable Behavior
Charts
|
|
|