Teaching Kids About Natural Consequences
There is no better place for your child to learn values, standards, and social skills than in the home. There is no better teaching method than letting natural consequences take place. If you as an adult don't pay the phone bill, they cut off your service. If your child doesn't turn in his report, he receives a low grade.
There should be no question that when your child ruins her sister's sweater, she pay for a new one, and if the laundry is not done by the agreed-upon time, he may not go with his friends until it's done. If your child is responsible for feeding the dog, then the dog should be fed before the child sits down to breakfast.
You will be amazed at the wise answers your children will give you when you ask them, "What do you think is fair?" or even, "This is a real problem. What should we do about it?" "Can you come up with a good solution for correcting the problem?'
The easier road is to yell at them, ground them, or punish them, but that road doesn't teach them much or allow them to solve their own problems. It only makes the parent resentful and the child angry.
The higher road takes a few more minutes, a calm voice, and a reasonable manner, but it leaves the child with his/her pride intact and tools to recognize how actions impact other people and things.
You are a teacher, so teach a life lesson
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Judy H. Wright, Parent Educator, Author & International speaker